Developing a Couples' Mentor Program in Your Church

Robert Oglesby will teach you how to effectively develop a couples' mentoring program in your own church. Robert's church family has used this effective plan for more than 10 years with much success. Nearly 350 couples were mentored in the last 11 years with a divorce rate of only 2% for the mentored couples.

Frequently Asked Questions about the PREPARE Program:

What are the major goals of the PREPARE/ENRICH Program?
There are six goals and six couple exercises. The six couple exercises are designed to help couples:

  1. Explore their Relationship Strength and Growth Areas
  2. Strengthen their communication skills, including assertiveness and active listening
  3. Resolve their conflicts using the Ten Steps for Resolving Couple Conflict
  4. Explore their relationship and families-of-origin issues with Couple and Family Map
  5. Develop a workable budget and financial plan
  6. Develop their personal, couple and family goals

How many couples have taken the inventories?
Since its inception in 1980, more than 1,000,000 couples have used the inventories.

How many are trained to administer the inventory?
In the United States over 50,000 counselors and clergy are trained to use the PREPARE/ENRICH Program.

What are the five inventories?
There are five inventories: PREPARE, for premarital couples, PREPARE-MC for premarital couples with children, PREPARE-CC for cohabiting couples, ENRICH for married couples and MATE for older couples and middle-aged couples in transition.

How does the Program work?
A trained counselor administers the appropriate inventory to the couple. Each inventory has 165 items and 30 background questions. The completed answer sheets are sent in to our office and scored. The scoring process includes comparing the partners' responses to each other with adjustments for idealistic distortion and national norms. A 15-page computer report is returned to the counselor for use in the three or more counseling sessions.

Who can train to use the inventories and how are they trained?
Counselors and Clergy. We recommend that everyone interested in being trained attend a daylong seminar where they learn how to administer and interpret the reports and offer the PREPARE/ENRICH Program.