Help and Healing Resources

Note: This is a list of resources. It is not exhaustive. Also, we cannot vouch for the specific views of any of the following authors, though we have found each resource to have helpful information in one way or another.

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Index:

Miscellaneous	Relationships	Depression
Anxiety	Sexual Purity/ Sexual Addiction	Homosexuality
Alcohol	Drugs	Spiritual Concerns
Eating Disorders	Co-Addiction / Codependency	Couples Recovery
Software

Miscellaneous

Web Sites:

Focus of The Family - http://www.family.org

Books:

Relationships

Web Sites:

Real Relationships - http://www.realrelationships.com

Books:

A Lasting Promise : A Christian Guide to Fighting for Your Marriage by Scott M. Stanley, Daniel Trathen, Savanna McCain, Milt Bryan
Fighting for Your Marriage: Positive Steps for Preventing Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love, New and Revised by Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley, Susan L. Blumberg
Choosing God's Best by Don Raunikar
Relationships by Les and Leslie Parrot is a book filled with the latest findings and contemporary strategies for understanding:
who we are and what we bring to our relationships
how our families of origin shape the way we relate to others
building friendships that last
secrets to finding the love we long for and handling sexual issues
what to do when friends fail how to relate to God without feeling phony
Questions Couples Ask by Les and Leslie Parrot provides you with answers to the top 100 marital questions. In a single, handy reference you will find more than a dozen topical sections, including everything from communication, conflict and careers to sex, in-laws, and money

Depression

Web Sites:

Books:

Victory Over Depression: How to Live Above your Circumstances by Bob George
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D., Md. Burns, Aaron T. Beck
Ten Days to Self-Esteem by David D. Burns
Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think by Dennis Greenberger, Christine Padesky

Anxiety

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Books:

Sexual Purity/Sexual Addiction

Links: Software | Workshops & Counselors | Books

Web Site:

Pure Intimacy - http://www.pureintimacy.org
www.addictionresourceguide.com Guide for those seeking professional help for addictions.
www.bethesdaworkshops.org Hope and healing for those struggling with sex and relationship addiction.
www.clergyrecovery.com The Clergy Recovery Network exists to support, encourage and provide resources to religious professionals in recovery.
www.christianrecovery.com Christian ministries dedicated to helping the Christian community become a safe and helpful place for people recovering from addiction, abuse or trauma.
www.everymansbattle.com Online Community providing workshops, accountability groups, life chats, etc… Set-up fee is $39.95 with monthly dues of $5.95/mo or $70.00/year.
www.fbi.gov/publications/pguide/pguide.htm FBI’s Guide for parents and internet safety.
www.freedomeveryday.org To Encourage, Empower, and Equip God's people to live everyday in sexual integrity.
www.faithfulandtrueministries.com Website that provides resources to therapists and individuals dealing with sexual addiction.
www.family.org Focus on the Family web site.
www.iProdigals.com Ministry to Christians struggling with sexual addiction/infidelity. Prodigals offer training and materials to help local churches establish effective ministries to sexual addicts and their spouses. The web site contains recovery resources, referrals and list of recovery events in the Pacific Northwest .
www.nacronline.com National Association for Christian Recovery
www.newlifepartners.org Online support for wives of sex addicts.
www.promisekeepers.org Promise Keepers is dedicated to igniting and uniting men to be passionate followers of Jesus Christ through the effective communication of 7 Promises.
www.pureintimacy.com Website providing information on intimacy, addiction, homosexuality, and theology of sexuality.
www.pureonline.com 30 day online course $99
www.sexaddictioncertification.org The American Association of Certified Christian sexual Addiction Specialists, Inc., offers certification and training to professionals and pastors in the treatment of sexual addiction.
www.settingcaptivesfree.com Online community that provides online seminars and community for individuals dealing with addictions.
This information is provided in 11 languages (Spanish, French, Dutch, Russian, Portuguese, Hebrew, etc…)
www.xxxchurch.com Site directed to young people. It brings awareness, openness, accountability and recovery. Offers free accountability software.

Software

www.bsafehome.com Online Internet Filter. $49.95/year
www.intego.com/contentbarrier Internet Filter and accountability Software. Apple’s McIntosh OS X version available.
www.integrityonline.com DSL and Dial Up Internet provider who also offers Internet Filter. Integrity online offers free Internet Accountability Software.
www.pkfamily.com Promise Keeper’s internet provider and filter.
www.x3watch.com X3 Watch - Free accountability software

Workshops and Counselors

www.aacc.net American Association of Christian Counselors
www.celebraterecovery.com Celebrate Recovery - Addiction Recovery Program
www.everymansbattle.com Every Man's Battle Workshop
www.newlife.com New Life Ministries - Counselor Referral Network
www.purelifeministries.org Pure Life - Live-in Program
www.purerestoration.com Pure Restoration - Purity Workshop for Men
www.sexaa.org Sex Addicts Anonymous - PO Box 70949 - Houston , TX 77270 Tel: 713-869-4902
www.sa.org Sexaholics Anonymous – Tel: 805-581-3343 – 12 Steps Program
www.sca-recovery.org Sexual Compulsives Anonymous Los Angeles : 213-859-5585 / New York : 212-439-1123
www.slaafws.org Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous - 617-332-1845

Books:

A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery by Patrick J. Carnes
Contrary to Love by Patrick J. Carnes
Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, Mike Yorkey
Faithful and True by Mark R. Laaser
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick J. Carnes
Pornography Trap: Setting Pastors and Laypersons Free from Sexual Addiction by Ralph H. Earle, Mark Laaser
101 Practical Exercises For Sexual Addiction Recovery, ISBN 1881292193
Addicted to Love, Stephen Arterburn, Ann Arbor , MI : Servant Publications, 1991. ISBN 0-89283-802-7.
Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Healing Power of Jesu s, Russell Willingham, Bob Davies, Downers Grove, IL: Intervarsity Press, 1999. ISBN 0830817913.
Caught in the Net: How to Recognize the Signs of Internet Addiction, Kimberly S. Young, New York: John Wiley & Sons, 1998. ISBN 0-471-19159-0.
Contrary to Lov e, Patrick Carnes, Minneapolis : CompCare Publishers, 1989. ISBN 1568380593.
Don't Call It Lov e, Patrick Carnes, New York : Bantam Books, 1991. ISBN 0-553-351-38-9.
Every Man's Battl e , Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker, Colorado Springs : WaterBrook Press, 200 0. ISBN 157856-368-2.
Facing Love Addictio n, Pia Melody, San Francisco : Harper, 1992. ISBN 0-06-250604-8.
Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery, Patrick Carnes, Wickenburg , AZ : Gentle Path Press, 2001.ISBN 1-929866-01-1.
Faithful and True: Sexual Integrity in a Fallen World, Mark Laaser, Grand Rapids , MI : Zondervan Publishing House, 1996. ISBN 0-310-20836.
Faithful and True Workboo k, Mark Laaser, Nashville : Lifeway Press, 1996. ISBN 0-8054-9819-2.
No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Shame, Marnie C. Ferree, Fairfax , VA : Xulon Press, 2002. ISBN 1-591600-16-2.
Lonely All the Tim e, Ralph Earle & Gregory Crow, New York: Pocket Books, 1989. ISBN 0-671-66999-0.
Men's Secret Wars, Patrick Means, Grand Rapids, MI : Fleming H. Revell, 1996. ISBN 0-8007-1721-X.
Out of the Depths of Sexual Sin:The Story of My Life and Ministry, ISBN 0971547076
Out of the Shadow s, Patrick Carnes, Minneapolis : CompCare Publishers (2nd edition), 1992. ISBN 0-89638-269-9.
Pornography Trap, Ralph Earle & Mark Laaser, Kansas City : Beacon Hill Press, 2002. ISBN 0-8341-1938-2.
Sexual Anorexia, Patrick Carnes, Center City : MN: Hazelden, 1997. ISBN 1-56838-144-1.
At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry, ISBN 0970220200
The Silent War: Ministering to those trapped in the deception of pornography, ISBN 0892214910
When Good Men are Tempted, ISBN 0310215668

Co-Addiction / Codependency

Back From Betrayal, Jennifer Schneider, Tucson : Recovery Resources Press, 2001. ISBN 0-345-36786-3.
Beyond Codependency, Melody Beattie , New York : Harper/Hazelden, 1989. ISBN 0-06-255418-2.
Boundaries and Relationship s, Charles L. Whitfield, Deerfield Beach , FL : Health Communications, 1993. ISBN 1-55874-259-X.
Codependent No Mor e, Melody Beattie, New York : Harper/Hazelden, 1987. ISBN 0-89486-402-5.
Living with Your Husband's Secret War s, Marsha Means, Grand Rapid, MI: Revell, 1999. ISBN 0-8007-5710-6.
Love Is A Choic e, Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirith, Paul Meir, Nashville : Thomas Nelson Publishing, 1989. ISBN 0-8407-3189-2.
Partner's Healing Journey Workboo k, Marsha Means, Redmond , WA : Prodigals International, 2001.
The Sex Addiction Workboo k, ISBN 1572243767
Virtual Addiction, ISBN 1572241721
When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Hear t, ISBN 0971547017
Women Who Love Too Muc h, Robin Norwood, New York : Pocket Books, 1991. ISBN 0671733419.

Couples Recovery

An Affair of the Mind: The Woman's Courageous Battle to Salvage Her Family from the Devastation of Pornography by: Laurie Hall
Before A Bad Goodby e, Tim Clinton, Nashville : Word, 1999. ISBN 0-8499-3743-4.
Bold Love by Dan Allender and Tremper Longman III
Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner
Dr. Weiss's 100 Empowering Exercises for Spouses of Sex Addicts by Doug Weiss
From Bondage to Bonding by Nancy Groom
Forgiven Foreve r, Joe Beam, West Monroe , LA : Howard Publishing, 1998. ISBN 1-878990-66-7.
His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage, Willard F. Harley, Jr., Grand Rapids , MI : Fleming Revell, 1986. ISBN 0-8007-1478-4.
I Love You Talk to Me, Donald Harvey, Grand Rapids , MI : Baker Books, 1996. ISBN 0-8010-4399-9.
Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley
Moments Together for Couples: Devotions for Drawing Near to God and One Anothe r, Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Ventura , CA : Regal Books, 1995. ISBN 0-8307-1754-4.
Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Realit y, Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser, Mark Laaser, Wickenburg , AZ : Gentle Path Press, 1999. ISBN 1-929866-00-3.
Rebuilding Trust by Jennifer Schneider and Burt Schneider
Sex, Lies and Forgiveness by Jennifer Schneider and Burt
The Act of Marriage by Tim LaHaye
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs, Chicago , Moody Press, 1991. ISBN 0-8024-7748-8.
Torn Asunder Workbook, Dave Carder, Chicago , Moody Press, 2001. ISBN 0-8024-7141-2

Healthy Sexuality

Books:

Restoring the Pleasure, Cliff Penner & Joyce Penner, Dallas : Word, 1993. ISBN 0-8499-3464-8.
Secrets of Eve, Archibald Hart, Catherine Hart Weber, Debra Taylor, Nashville : Word, 1998. ISBN 0-8499-2340-3.
Sexual Healing Journey, Wendy Maltz, New York : Harper Perennial, 1992. ISBN 0-06-016661-4.
Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Mark Laaser, Colorado Springs : WaterBrook Press, 1999. ISBN 1-57856-199-X.
The Celebration of Sex, Doug Rosenau, Nashville : Thomas Nelson, 1994. ISBN 0-7852-7366-2.
The Sexual Man, Archibald Hart, Dallas: Word, 1994. ISBN 0-8499-3684-5.

Homosexuality

Exodus International North America, P.O. Box 77652, Seattle, WA 98177-0652, Phone: (206) 784-7799; Internet: www.exodus-international.org/ministry.shtml
Independent Religion-Based Ministries, Deliver Ministries, P.O. Box 6526, Jackson, MI 49204; Email: Delivermin@aol.com; www.members.aol.com/delivermin/index.html
Messiah College, One College Avenue, Grantham, PA 17027, (717) 766-2511; http://www.messiah.edu/hpages/facstaff/chase/h/
NARTH, National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality, 16633 Ventura Boulevard, Suite 1340, Encino, CA 91436-1801, Phone: (818) 789-4440, Fax: (818) 789-6452; http://www.narth.com/
Redeemed Life, Mario Bergner, Church of the Resurrection, 1825 College Avenue, Ste. 160, Wheaton, IL 60187, Phone: (630) 668-0661

Books:

Balch, D. (Ed.) (2000). Homosexuality, Science, And The “Plain Sense” Of Scripture. Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans. (Divergent views on ethics, Scripture, and science)
Bergner, M. (1995). Setting Love In Order. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker (Healing ministry/evangelical)
Comiskey, A. (1989). Pursuing Sexual Wholeness. Lake Mary, FL: Creation House. (Healing ministry/evangelical)
Consiglio, W. (1991). Homosexual No More. Wheaton, IL: Victor. (Healing ministry/evangelical)
Dallas, J. (1991). Desires In Conflict. Harvest House. (Healing ministry/ evangelical)
Davies, R., & Rentzel, L. (1994). Coming Out Of Homosexuality. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press. (Evangelical)
Gagnon, R. (2002). The Bible And Homosexual Practice. Lexington, KY: Abingdon. (Theological/analysis)
Jones, S., & Yarhouse, M. (2000). Homosexuality: The Use Of Scientific Research In The Church's Moral Debate. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press. (Theoretical/scientific/evangelical)
Moberly, E. (1983). Homosexuality: A New Christian ethic. Greenwood, South Carolina: The Attic Press. (Theoretical)
Nicolosi, J. (1993). Healing Homosexuality: Case Stories Of Reparative Therapy. New York: Jason Aronson. (Professional/clinical case examples)
Nicolosi, J. (1993). Reparative Therapy Of Male Homosexuality. New York: Jason Aronson. (Professional audience/reparative therapy)
Payne, L. (1981). The Broken Image. Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books. (Healing ministry/evangelical)
Prichard, R. (1992). A Wholesome Example: Sexual Morality And The Episcopal Church. Lexington, KY: Bristol Books. (Theological/ecclesiastical analysis)
Satinover, J. (1996). Homosexuality And The Politics Of Truth. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker. (Theoretical/evangelical)
Schmidt, T. (1994) Straight And Narrow? Compassion and clarity in the homosexuality debate. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity. (Theoretical/ evangelical)
Siegel, E. (1988). Female Homosexuality: Choice Without Volition. Hillsdale, NJ: The Analytic Press. (Professional audience)
Siker, J. (Ed.) (1994). Homosexuality in the Church: Both Sides of the Debate. Louisville, KY: Westminstry John Knox Press. (Divergent views on ethics, Scripture, and science)
Webb, W. J. (2001). Slaves, Women and Homosexuals: Exploring the hermeneutics of cultural analysis. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity. (Theological/analysis)
Wold, D. J. (1998). Out of Order: Homosexuality in the Bible and Ancient Near East. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker. (Theological/analysis)
Worthen, A., & Davies, B. (1996). Someone I Love Is Gay: How family and friends can respond. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press. (Evangelical/family resource)
Yamamoto, J. (Ed.). (1990). The Crisis Of Homosexuality. Wheaton, IL: Victor Books. (Evangelical)
Yarhouse, M. & Burkett, L. (2003). Sexual Identity: A Guide To Living In The Time Between The Times. Lanham, MD: University Press of America. (Self-help, evangelical)
Yarhouse, M., & Jones, S. (1997). The Homosexual Client. In R. K. Sanders (Ed.), Christian Counseling Ethics. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press. (Ethics/counseling issues)
Yarhouse, M. (2001). Expanding Alternatives To Same-Sex Attraction And Behavior: Clinical Modules For Informed Consent, Assessment, And Intervention. Self-published, Virginia Beach, Virginia. (Professional audience, clinical workbook)

Alcohol

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Drugs

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Spiritual Concerns

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Eating Disorders

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Virtuous Reality Ministries, P.O. Box 29568, Austin, TX 78755, (512) 527-9500; http://virtuousreality.com/college